ACCEPTING THAT I HAVE DONE THE BEST I COULD DO
I am now receptive to the idea that . . .no matter what it looks like. I did the best I could.
What else would you have done? You keep turning the experience over in your mind. You are rethinking your actions and responses, which leads to questioning and doubting yourself. Instead of making yourself crazy, why not ask and honestly answer this one simple question. "What else could I have done?" Then take it one step further by asking, "If you could have done it, why didn't you do it?"
Could you have been more considerate? Compassionate? Understanding? Probably. Could you have been more patient? More tolerant? More cautious? Well, what do you think? Could you have said more or less? Could you have listened a bit closer? Could you have planned better? Waited longer? Of course you could have, but you didn't.
When you feel sufficiently remorseful, overwhelmingly confused and totally beaten down, you will be on the brink of a divine revelation! You will be face to face with something you probably never considered. Something too simple! Too easy! The truth is, if you could have done it, you would have!] The fact that you didn'tmeans you couldn't for reasons you may not be aware of right now.
Second-guessing yesterday will not help you today. Holding yourself hostage to what was not will not propel you into what will be. As you accept the reality of what you did not do in the past, you open yourself to the luxury of knowing it does not mean you will not do better in the future.
Until today, you may have held yourself hostage with remorse over what you could have done. In fact, you may be pushing yourself to a point of remorseful no return.Just for today, realize you did all you could have done. Take note of what you saw, heard, felt and experienced. Use those notes as preparation to do better at some later date.
Today I am devoted to accepting that I have done the best I could do!
From Until Today
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This particular post was shared with me by a friend who knows a little something about the choices we make and being satisfied knowing that we can not go back in the past to change our actions. Thank you for sharing SM.
I am now receptive to the idea that . . .no matter what it looks like. I did the best I could.
What else would you have done? You keep turning the experience over in your mind. You are rethinking your actions and responses, which leads to questioning and doubting yourself. Instead of making yourself crazy, why not ask and honestly answer this one simple question. "What else could I have done?" Then take it one step further by asking, "If you could have done it, why didn't you do it?"
Could you have been more considerate? Compassionate? Understanding? Probably. Could you have been more patient? More tolerant? More cautious? Well, what do you think? Could you have said more or less? Could you have listened a bit closer? Could you have planned better? Waited longer? Of course you could have, but you didn't.
When you feel sufficiently remorseful, overwhelmingly confused and totally beaten down, you will be on the brink of a divine revelation! You will be face to face with something you probably never considered. Something too simple! Too easy! The truth is, if you could have done it, you would have!] The fact that you didn'tmeans you couldn't for reasons you may not be aware of right now.
Second-guessing yesterday will not help you today. Holding yourself hostage to what was not will not propel you into what will be. As you accept the reality of what you did not do in the past, you open yourself to the luxury of knowing it does not mean you will not do better in the future.
Until today, you may have held yourself hostage with remorse over what you could have done. In fact, you may be pushing yourself to a point of remorseful no return.Just for today, realize you did all you could have done. Take note of what you saw, heard, felt and experienced. Use those notes as preparation to do better at some later date.
Today I am devoted to accepting that I have done the best I could do!
From Until Today
by: Iyanla Vanzant
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This particular post was shared with me by a friend who knows a little something about the choices we make and being satisfied knowing that we can not go back in the past to change our actions. Thank you for sharing SM.
At this particular junction in my life, I am faced with the uncertainty of new employment, graduation, moving somewhere new and the inevitable next transition (in no particular order). In formal student affairs education programs we focus on transition and the developmental process' that take place in our students but we don't actually pay much attention be tending to our self as beings. We are the masters of doing much with little, shaping the minds of students (in various forms), stimulating their intellectual and cognitive development and creating meaningful opportunities and programs that support student success.
I am guilty of preaching the importance of taking time for self, prioritizing, and not procrastinating but those are my biggest shortcomings. I think the difference is I'm aware of these shortcomings and willing to take steps toward improving my life to be the best professional, friend, daughter, and partner. I have done all I can with what I have. I will no longer linger in my past experiences and question why I didn't do something a particular way.
Yesterday is gone and tomorrow hasn't come yet. I must live in the now and take the lessons of my past to shape and mold my future. I refuse to get so caught up in my haves and have nots. Call it faith, hope or just good luck but I believe everything happens for a very special reason and it is not for me to question or doubt why life happens the way it does.
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